Understanding the Power of Patience and Growth

“Wherever we’re trying to go, we do not bully ourselves there. We believe ourselves there.” -Leeana Tankersley

Lately, the lesson that took me the longest to learn is really understanding the importance of showing myself more self-compassion, no matter what the outside circumstances are.

For so long, I believed that my worth and how I felt about myself were tied to external outcomes like whether I succeeded, met expectations, or got approval from others, and all that jazz. But then I’m starting to realize that self-compassion isn’t so much about waiting for everything to go perfectly or for others to validate me. I have to first be my biggest cheerleader. And I’ve come to see it as accepting myself just the way I am, even when things don’t go as planned, and being kind to myself through all the highs and lows.

Sure, we might still carry the weight of past struggles, traumas, and uncertainty, but I really believe you can turn that energy into something positive for yourself.

Energy is real, after all.

That saying “energy doesn’t die—it just changes forms” is completely spot on.

Unresolved trauma, big or small, often gets passed down to others—whether it’s to family, friends, or even the people around us.

It’s just how it works.

“Trying to run from pain, explains Canadian doc, Dr. Gabor Maté, only creates more of it.”

I truly believe that with self-compassion, you can change your daily habits and make small adjustments until something finally clicks. As Einstein said, it’s all about sticking with it long enough to figure it out. Because the patterns we grew up with don’t have to define who we become.

You have the power to rise above them.

You can create a new path for yourself—one that leads to growth, peace, compassion, and healing. And by doing that, you’re not just helping yourself, but also setting the stage for future generations to thrive.

The Lesson That Took Me the Longest to Learn

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Your enemy will pay you back with rage, will make you suffer, but the biggest damage to you will be caused by the rage and hatred existing in your heart. Neither your father, nor your mother, nor all your family can make you more good than your heart can when it forgives and forgets its abuse.” – Dhammapada, a book of Buddhist wisdom.

Healing and doing the inner work take a lot of self-compassion because it’s a process of trying things out, learning, and sometimes messing up along the way.

And if you look at the word “compassion,” you’ll see that it comes from Latin words “pati” and “cum,” which mean “to suffer with.” So basically, we can’t fully understand the pain in others until we’ve faced our own.

Let’s say for instance something happened when you were younger—like your parents not being there for you or putting way too much pressure on you at a young age; chances are, you might still be mentally stuck at that point in time. This is true facts.

That’s why you sometimes see adults acting like kids—throwing tantrums, yelling, and screaming, and shit, is because they never fully moved past that stage.

And there’s a big difference between being influenced by your inner child and letting your inner child control your choices and actions.

I’m not sure if that makes sense, but if you get it, you get it!

I know for me, at 28, I see things a lot differently than I did when I was younger, and all thanks to God and the journey I chose to take.

This journey of self-love, kindness, and all those feel-good emotions has been a total game changer for me lately.

Now I realize it’s really about “re-parenting” yourself because you start seeing things in a whole new way, and once you do, there’s no going back. Ultimately, healing is really about giving yourself the space to grow, learn, and embracing both the light and the dark within you.

It’s not something that happens overnight, but every step you take towards understanding yourself will bring you closer to a more peaceful, balanced life.

Final Thought💭💬

By re-parenting yourself and building healthier relationships—not just with others, but with yourself—you lay the foundation for true happiness and growth.

Self-compassion is one of the best things you can do, especially when others might not understand you.

So Instead of being your harshest critic, try becoming your biggest ally instead.

“Compassion” writes the American Buddhist nun, Pema Chödrön,“is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”

So, that’s all I got for you today, thank you for reading, and I’ll see you in the next one. Bye for now.

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This post is represented solely for entertainment purposes, it’s not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Thank you. @herbeegee on IG & Thread F4F♍🗣️👥🫂💙🌊🐟📘🐦